The 16 Lessons I Learned in the 365 Days Following the Death of My Husband

You Can’t Imagine It Until You’re Living It

Lesson 1

Grief is far greater than anything you could ever anticipate.

Lesson 11

Say Their Name

What is the greatest gift you can give someone who is grieving?

Talk To Your Person

Lesson 12

Lesson 2

Lower the Bar

Sometimes surviving the day is enough.

You’ll Find Your People

Lesson 3

No one can give you the one thing you want—but you’re going to need people who will help you find your way through.

Cookies Are a Food Group

Lesson 4

Do whatever you need to do to find a little comfort in the day.

Lesson 5

Permission To Cry

Crying isn’t losing control. Sometimes it’s exactly what you need.

Checking Out Permanently

Lesson 6

When the pain feels unbearable, find one reason to stay.

Lesson 7

365 Separate Days

It’s okay if today is as far ahead as you can think.

Are You Really Fine?

Lesson 8

Sometimes “I’m fine” is the easiest answer. Sometimes it’s the loneliest one.

Lesson 9

Love Leaking Out Your Eyes

You never need to apologize for your tears.

Do Grief Your Way

Lesson 10

There is no right way to grieve. There is only your way.

Talk to your person. Tell them everything…especially what you’ve never forgiven yourself for.

Lesson 13

Stay in the Present

When an entire day feels impossible, make it smaller.

Lesson 14

The Other Firsts

It’s not only the big “firsts” that catch you off guard.

Lesson 15

God Has Big Shoulders

Are you angry with God? Grief can shake more than your heart. Sometimes it shakes your faith, too.

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