Redefining the Language of Grief

Love, loss, survival and hope.

After losing my husband of 21 years, I discovered that many people don't know what to say to someone who is grieving.

Through my book and the 16 Lessons I learned in the year after his death, I'm helping redefine the language of grief—one conversation at a time.

If you’re new here…

A Memoir of Love, Loss, and the Journey Forward

Life doesn’t always follow the path we envision. Sometimes we find ourselves navigating a journey we never planned. I had no idea what awaited me following the death of my husband, nor did I ever imagine how much one heart can hurt. I certainly never expected to write and publish a memoir about our love story and my pain.

I also never thought I would care about anything other than surviving the long, quiet days. But something miraculous happened: I found a new purpose. And that purpose involves helping others survive those days and guiding their friends and family who feel helpless.

Dave and Patty toasting with champagne at their wedding reception.
Dave and Patty sitting at a restaurant table on their last trip together, smiling with empty glasses on the table.